Compassion and ClarityOctober 29, 2009
Sometimes I am stunned by my internal, emotional response to feedback. I guess it’s because I have an artist’s temperament. Emotions run deep and I seem to feel them all. When I encounter a situation where my judgement is heavy – that is, I feel that I have failed in some way and I collapse into an emotional black hole – here is what I do, in this order:
First, I remind myself that my sensitivity is a double-sided sword. Although I may feel down at the moment, it is this same sensitivity which makes me so good at what I do.
Second, I know that when I am responding emotionally, what I need is compassion. So, I ask my best friend or wife for some of their time, or take myself out someplace quiet that I enjoy for a walk.
Third, once I am feeling better, I want better results, so I go for clarity. Now, I sit down and write out what I will do differently or if it’s not clear, I call my mentor, a business colleague, or my wife to think through my challenge. Compassion and clarity are the dynamic duo that keep me moving.